A 55-year-old spinster, Esther Bamiloye, who recently got married to a 62-year-old bachelor, Isaac Bakare, in Osun State, tells BOLA BAMIGBOLA she’s grateful God finally answered her prayer to get married
What is your name and age?
I am Lady Evangelist Esther Bamiloye, now Mrs Bakare. I am the 55-year-old woman that got married recently for the first time in her life. My husband is Isaac Bakare, a 62-year-old artisan. Before we got married, he was never married too.
I have a Grade 2 certificate, but I am not into teaching. I am into garment production. I produce garment such as vests, sports wears, washable diapers and more.
Is there a story behind your long wait before getting married?
The devil had plans to stop me from getting married. When I felt I was ready, there was no man coming for me. I kept waiting on God for a miracle till I reached 55-years. I never dated anyone till I got married. Initially, I thought the problem was from my former church and I left, but I give glory to God. He did it for me in my new church and all the barriers were removed.
Were you under any kind of pressure from family, friends and others during your long wait for the right partner?
Things like that can’t be ruled out, especially when you see your mates or those younger than you doing well, getting married and you are yet to do yours, there will definitely be pressure from people around.
How bad was it?
It was tough. It was one of the reasons I left my former church and joined another church because the pressure was too much at a point.
What exactly did you do to survive the pressure?
I was able to withstand all the pressure because of my deep-rooted faith, belief and focus on Christ Jesus. Specifically, God gave me that grace, dedication and help from certain quarters also sustained me all through.
What was the strangest advice you received during this period?
I can’t count them, but none of the pieces of advice really scared me, except seeing those younger than me getting married on time, while I was waiting, almost wasting away.
Do you have stories of relationships that didn’t work out?
No, I did not at any point in time have any date before I eventually got married. I lived a decent life throughout my school days. I didn’t have any relationship before. I accepted Christ very early and when I was still a student, I didn’t even give any thought to it, as I knew I was not ready then.
When starting this particular relationship that culminated in a marriage, did you have fears that it might not work out?
No at all. My relationship was planned by God. The way God did it, it can’t be explained. It came into fulfillment just as God said it.
How did you meet your husband and what attracted you to him?
God had been revealing his picture and personality to me and speaking to me about him through some people for over three years. Exactly on the day it reached three years that I first got the revelation, God sent the message again through a prophet. The description of his looks, where he would come from and others matched perfectly when I set my eyes on him at Ilesa. My church is in Osogbo, but we had an event in Ilesa where I met the man destined for me.